Thursday, February 21, 2013

On: Same Sex Marriage


First off, I want to say that if someone does not believe in same sex marriage (SSM), they are not a homophobe, a bigot, or close minded.  I would think a majority of people have come to a decision through a thought out, rational process.

I am going to make a few broad assumptions, which I know is dangerous.  But if you could sit down with every person and have an open, honest discussion with them, I think they would come to these broad assumptions I am making.

Assumption 1: I feel like the main issue that most people who are opposed to SSM face is: What is the role of religion in marriage? How does this relationship determine how to perceive what marriage is or should be? 

The conflict is that God condemns homosexuality in the Bible and if you believe in that then you must be opposed to SSM.

Assumption 2: I would also think that most people on either side of this debate would agree that anyone can be in a responsible, loving, committed relationship regardless of their sexual orientation.

You can look around and find a gay couple that is every bit a concerned, caring and in love as a straight couple.

Assumption 3: My guess is if you ask: "Should a gay man/woman be able to visit their sick/dying partner in the hospital? 


A majority of people wouldn't have a problem with it. 


Now to solve the problem.


If you take out the religious aspect of what people think marriage is or should be then it takes away the stigma. Sell The People on the fact that a civil union is irreligious. The union is recognized by the government for the specific purposes of equal taxation, inheritances, medical reasons, powers of attorney. 

Marriage is for the Churches.  Marriage can be kept sacred, holy, ordained by God.  If a religion wants to allow SSM in their churches, then that is something that is up to the church.  People can make a decision about which religion is best for them based on any number of criteria, same sex marriage can be one of those things.

I think this is the best way to approach this issue.  By separating the terms you allow everyone to get what they want.  Religion can keep God in the equation with out compromising their values and ideals.  And any couple can receive the rights that currently married heterosexual couples currently receive.

This debate can stop.  Schools won't be forced to teach one thing or another.  The government can still keep track of their tax payers.  Religions can continue to practice their beliefs. 

Am I missing something? 

1 comment:

A-Kap said...

This is absolutely brilliantly and so simply laid out. Unfortunately common sense is not so common these days..... Thank you for sharing your thoughts. (I am a good friend of your amazing sister Britt who I love and adore)